This article is so important, it inspired an expansive video version of this!

Want to work 10 times harder with women?  Then just work on your inner and outer game - and even then you'll still 'probably' make progress from where you are now.  Ok, that may be an overstatement but I want to help you see a bigger and more accurate picture here.

In the dating and seduction industry, the popular beliefs include working on your Inner Game and your Outer Game.

Here are their general definitions:

Inner Game: A man's individual confidence, beliefs, psychology, outlook, willpower (to keep approaching), view of reality, overcoming approach anxiety, overcoming pain, responsibility, etc.;

((With this definition, it bears an invisible yet fairly accurate meta-frame of inner game as 'something to fix' as if men were the problem and women not only are the prize (and the most socially valued is the norm) but can get away being held unaccountable for their behavior or actions as men are basically clueless or ignorant into it all))

Outer Game: social skills, social value, approaching women, overcoming approach anxiety (hopefully), appearance, fashion, verbal communication ability, everything 'outside of' your inner game, working 'sets', being 'in-field', actually getting out there and meeting women; the 'action part' (from their view). 

I have seen almost all modern dating experts and PUA's (even progressive ones) abide by (even believe in) this simple meta-frame or understanding of reality; inner and outer game.  There has been a move towards natural game but few (if any) up until now have been able to do anything other than reference or model natural behavior.

"You got rejected?  Well, keeping working on your inner game and confidence.  Do more of these internal mind tricks to somehow believe she really wants you." (When the whole thing seems like a lie and obviously she doesn't and ends up going home again with her friends without a man.)

Unless you're already high status, it's very difficult to reach behavioral congruency with this outlook.  Does this make sense to you?  If it's not working on the 'outer' level with women, then you've just got to keep working on your confidence and inner game?

Bad News Brown is Busted.  Time for the bigger picture.

But in reality isn't communication (and judgment) occurring on all levels (especially from high-value women)?  So how can meeting women just be limited to 'social' (let alone the 1 social culture you're in)? 

So to start, I see social and interpersonal communication as occurring simultaneously instead.  Your inner game doesn't 'stop' when you approach a woman with 'outer' game.  She is making all kinds of OTHER judgments that are far more important in determining if she would 'mate' with you.

If you go with this definition of 'inner' and 'outer' game, wouldn't it inherently limit you to only see things on those levels?  'There's 'me' and everything outside of me.

To me, I see this cycle as very 'Western'.  It's very social (them) and ego oriented (me).

Furthermore, the 'outer' is usually limited to the Western(-ized) social reality and it's values that you see in front of you; it could be nothing close to nature in the first place. 

Not to mention that social dynamics can change and shift all of the time and most are created and contrived by man.  Nature and energy are everlast.

So, by being stuck in this Inner/Outer cycle, you keep working on your inner game because your outer game (based on your external, social reality) keeps failing because it can't ever compare to the social value of women in the contrived and forced reality of the social matrix or 'game'. 

In this frame of reality, women PERMANENTLY have the 'value' and 'power' (because it's social) no matter how you look at it.  It's a social scale.

And you just CAN'T see any other possible way with the paradigm of Inner/Outer Game other than achieving their level of popularity or being a literal 'rockstar'.  If it's not 'outer' it has to be 'inner' by DEFINITION.

Generally mainstream dating advice is behind the times and really off track even moreso.  There are mainstream dating experts and they'll keep talking about pretty much everything from a Western social and interpersonal view of reality (and it's found in their terminology and verbage). 

Attraction is natural and we don't have an 'understanding' of it in the mainstream yet we all know what it 'is' when we feel it.

So back to your subjective view of reality; your personal value OR your social value generally can't compare to 'in-demand' women.  It's like you have a losing edge (and it's designed that way socially).

What's ridiculous is that social and interpersonal communication is not inherently sexual at all.

To break this cycle, what I have discovered, clarified and teach is that what is focused on the most (Inner/Outer) ironically are the least important when you're meeting women (for physical, attraction-based or ultimately balanced relationships). 

That is the 6% of communication as we know which is external, personality, interpersonal, social, and verbally focused; the world we 'see' and superficially 'value' in front of us.  That reality of communication is important to our Western lives but not necessarily to sexuality and seduction. 

Again, we live in a Western world of interpersonal and social communication with it's own values (which include leering women away from motherhood and into careers or sexploitation).  Until you find natural values it's going to be very challenging to succeed with women and dating or to attract and keep a woman you desire.

Many women will sell out and adapt to their social culture because it's popular but despite putting on a front that becomes behavioral, it's the real and natural man that can bring them back out of their shell of suppression to feel like a real woman again.  You can be that man again IF you have the right kind of resources and behavioral tools.

The reality of sexual communication is on another level entirely beneath all of this 'nurture' and has to be looked at and re-discovered in an anthropological way in order to have a clue again.  Even if you know, the programs in your head will take over the second you see a stripper on a pole unless you reprogram your mind enough.

It's the 94% that is non-verbal, sensual, emotional, biological, primal and physiological that we don't see in 'real world' communication that often at all because we're just not in relationship to it.  Yet, this is what matters the most when it comes to sexual attraction and physical/mating relationships.  We've just lost touch with it.

I've found that almost ALL of your past failures, depression, rejection, lack of success or questions can be entirely handled by taking care of your natural game.  It's the focus on your inner game as the problem that causes to make things even worse in an endless cycle.

So let's take another look at these definitions and how they affect your behavioral reality and success with women in this quick overview.

Here is my definition of Inner Game:

Your individual and unique personality or character.  Anything that makes you uniquely you and differentiates you from anyone else.  Your hobbies, personality, personal character, character flaws, interests, education, skills, traits, self-development, goals, self-identity, etc.

Another way to see how progressive this is, is just to say that

Inner Game = your Egoic mind

In a way, it's really your ego and it's everything that's stopping you more than you can realize.  It's the conditioned programs in your head that are in the way.  Programs that are influencing your beliefs and behavior even more than you're aware of or want them to.  Even more than your own personal development.

It's NURTURE that has suppressed the NATURE of both men and women, even practically preventing it in real world interactions. 

1 of you has to have at least SOME natural value/communication at some level or NOTHING physical will happen or develop.

Now there's way too much head games, logic and analysis on the 'inner' level for something going on that is actually inherently intuitive and women can sense it immediately. 

mPUA's will say to 'take action' (outer game) to get out of your head yet stuck in this Inner/Outer paradigm, there still isn't very much progress or results with women and attraction.  They're running into all kinds of barriers (and ignorance) that they just can't grasp (and I didn't for years either even though I wasn't in their camps).

Many men are stuck in their head memorizing openers and building up the unnecessary fear instead of just getting rid of everything about their logical (self) conscious mind and truly being present or in the moment (and fearless) with women, letting the biological nature of both of them do the hard work.

The goal of many men is to HAVE sexual attraction so that women will continue wanting to be with them in balanced, win-win relationships.  But dealing with sexuality on a personal, interpersonal or social level for something that is above and beyond one's own self-identity is actually very selfish and kind of ridiculous. 

Although it seems like it, sexual attraction and seduction is not about your personality or your social status (ie. rockstar); the closest thing to that is by anthropological examples who showcase that as a byproduct of natural character.

When you really get this you'll realize how selfish and ignorant we all seemed to be in the past!  It's massive Eastern and global influence, objectivity, experience and cultural/historical differentiation that allowed me to break through the cycle and 'see' things.

Can you see all of this PRESSURE that is put on the man when he has a paradigm of just Outer and Inner Game?  He's limited because he's not accessing his birthright of natural, sexual value nor able to connect with women on that level to trigger instant attraction.  This should be a liberation for you once it hits you. 

A lot of men deal with even MORE issues by getting involved in 'the game'.  Plus there never seems to be a real solution to inner game except more inner game which doesn't really work for most guys.  It's just more ego and more general ignorance to the causal, behaviorally influencing dynamics and relationships that are oppressing you in the first place.

So what's going on?

Well, in order to have things make more sense, I called each 'game' as 'character'.  Then I was the first one to clearly differentiate a man's NATURAL character FROM his Inner Game/Character.  So men have 3 different characters (root behavioral characteristics); natural, inner and social.

That distinction is tremendous because it takes the unrightful burden of 'fault' off of a man's personal character and taking the weight of the world on his shoulders or his ego.  Nature and the biological process of reproduction is something that has existed for a LONG time and the Animal Kingdom has got the process down without getting their ego in the way.  (Even then, the only thing that would suppress it would be social dynamics).

So to recap this brief overview so far;

Basically I teach that your inner game is not only near irrelevant but that it IS the problem and how to take it out of the equation completely from screwing anything up.  It's the behaviorally influencing dynamics and your relationships that are the issue, not your current subjective (and likely ignorant) view of a greater reality.

So, if it's not inner or outer game or communication..what is it that matters 10X more and how can we work on that?  You already know that it's that other 94%; non-verbal, physiological, energy, emotion, intuition, relational, power, instinct and value of raw attraction and the biological 'alpha' force of nature.  This is what matters to women on the sexual level.

Amplifying and communicating your 94% of nature and energy (sexuality) will allow the other 6% of communication to complement the foundation.

Having a different definition immediately starts to free you.  It breaks you out of an unproductive behavioral pattern.  In other words, have the tools to work on your NATURAL GAME and your ENERGY (even more important) and it will resolve all Inner Game issues.  Fortunately, you're in the right place because we've got the best tools in the world to practically and effectively work on your Natural Game.

Check out the expanded video version of this.  On Youtube.com there are 3 parts totalling 30 minutes but you can get the fuller viddler version on this site.  Also there is the FULL-full audio .mp3 downloadable version that you can take with you recently up as a podcast where you can get here.